Get your thinking straight/modeled muddled thinking. We have an idea that we have not thought through, we are not prepared, we confuse everyone.
- Organize your thoughts
- Say what you mean
- Get to the point. Effective communicators don’t beat around the bush
- Be concise. Don’t waste words.
- Be real. Let the real you come through. You will be more convincing and more comfortable.
- Speak in images, a picture is worth of 1,000 words. Words help people visualize concepts. Talking or sending messages is only half the process. A truly accomplished communicator must also know how to listen and receive messages.
- Your turn to listen, do it with thought and care. Listening like speaking and writing requires genuine interests and attention. Most of us pertain 25% of what we here.
- If you can increase your retention and comprehension you can increase your effectiveness.
- A sign on the wall of Linden Johnsons senate office put it on down in earth way. “When you are talking you ain’t learning.”
- To use your eyes if you listen only with your ears you are missing on the message.
- On the face is an eloquent communication medium. While the speaker is delivering the message the face is saying, “I’m serious, just kidding, I’m hurt…”
- Observe nonverbal signals when listening to people.
- Rubbing one eye, speaker is having trouble accepting something.
- Tapping feet. When a statement is accompanied by foot tapping it’s a lack of confidence.
- Rubbing fingers. If the thumb and 4th finger is rubbed together the speaker is holding something back.
- Staring and blinking. The topic at hand is under consideration.
- Crooked smiles. Genuine smiles are symmetrical; they can be fake.
- Eyes that avoid contact. Sign of low self-esteem or speaker is not being truthful.
- Make things easy, listeners make it clear that they’re interested in what the other person has to say.
