Anger is defined as a strong feeling of displeasure and belligerence (or attitude) by a wrong. The real question is when does real anger happen? What triggers it? Anger is perceived by most and rightfully so as being a negative trait. So much so that the Talmud says that, “Anger can cause a sage to lose its wisdom, or a person who is distant for greatness to forfeit it”. Actually it is not hard to see why. Indeed, when we get angry we tend to act irrationally. It is a well-known accepted fact that things said or done in anger are almost always destructive almost always caused for later regret. Sadly, enough, dealing with anger is a lifelong challenge. Anger is even compared to eye Dollar Tree; because at time of his anger a man’s faith part’s from him. And this is because if the person realized what actually happened is part of God’s greater plan, then the person will not become angry at all.
How do most people interpret the feeling of anger?
- Righteousness: It is the sense of justice or punishment. It is a sense of entitlement based on an account.
- Victory: This is because the person does not want to allow a loss or defeat to go without a response. Making sure the last word “be mine”.
- Vengeance: Wishing to get back at someone for the wrong of yesterday or today. A deep desire of feeling good after the wrong “is done”. With Anger comes a feeling of strength and power, the sense of control the gratification of seeing fear in the eyes of another rather than feel it in oneself. In reality, anger, despite its destructiveness holds a certain type of mischievous pleasure: it brings out a surge of hidden energy that enlivens the life of the person whose life has grown to be dull.
Here are 4 simple yet very effective steps to control anger:
- When you feel like you are about to lash out and lose your temper, WAIT!
Don’t express your anger or pride verbally, simply wait for a short moment. Allow yourself a minute of reconsideration.
- Know that someone is watching. Remember that the world does have a creator and nothing gets past the master of the universe.
- Remember the consequences. You will most likely eventually have to make up and you will feel terrible about your actions.
- Remember who is in charge. Everything in the world is orchestrated to help you become a better person. Analyze closely the circumstance that lead you to anger. Know that even after you are remorse, if you are fortunate enough to be forgiven by those you love, you will still not be able to recapture and relive all those hours or days and nights you wasted in your anger. Times that could have been spent in love and good feeling. Anger fills the irreplaceable now, disallowing the wonder that could be. Anger destroys the goodness of life. If you wish to live a higher life, a life filled with good times mixed with feelings of unity and surrounded by pleasant vibes all around you, have happier relationships, a better marriage, be closer to your children, and exceptional report with colleagues, a life with passion compare with joy, a life of love and genuine affection for those around you, you must learn to master and overcome your anger at all times.
